I wasn't honest with you ...
Published: Thu, 03/19/15
Serious breakthroughs at the recent
event I attended, and this was one of them.
Too often we aren't honest with each
other, with clients, with our market
because we want to be liked.
I hadn't realized it, but I have
definitely been guilty of this.
As direct as you know me to be, there
have been places in conversation and
in presentation that I've gone soft
and I wasn't honest with you.
And it's more than wanting to be liked
(though that is a big button for me.)
It's also that when I felt you in pain,
instead of digging deeper and getting
to the root of the issue, I went into
solution mode.
All that did was put a Band-Aid on
the problem, and alleviate a symptom.
It didn't remove the cause.
Truth can hurt, but dishonesty hurts more.
And when we spend time fooling ourselves
and others it hurts our business and
everyone we work with.
I've let go of my ego's need to be liked
and committed to being honest even when
I know it's uncomfortable or downright ouchy.
When I am honest, I am of infinitely more
valuable to my clients and to you than
when I play it safe and stay in my
"want to be liked" zone.
Look into your business.
Where are you playing it safe?
What are you doing that is fueling your
need to be liked, and disallowing you
full honesty with your clients?
Want some help with this? Let's have
a conversation around this and how
you can change it.
meetme.so/MelissaGalt
Some time ago, I was working with Susan,
a wellness coach. She'd gotten two new
clients in the door at a significant rate
increase when in a coaching session,
she said she wanted to change direction.
She was feeling temporarily worn out by
her new found success (yes, this is what
fear of success looks like when you
starting realizing success.)
My need to be liked kicked in and
I allowed her to shift from a proven
profitable path, and I didn't call her
on her "fear of success" as I should have.
She gave up the profitable path and is
still searching for her new path and
still suffering with a fear of success
because I wasn't honest with her.
When I fail to call you on what you need
to be doing and let you slide into what
you want to do (because it's familiar and
easy but hasn't gotten you results),
I'm not being honest with either of us!
Instead, I have to hold you to your
commitment to yourself, to your clients,
and to your business so that you'll get
through the tough places and come out
on the other side of that big leap.
If you are starting to see where your
own need to be liked is getting in the
way of you being truly honest and
powerfully effective with your clients,
let's have a conversation. OR, if you
recognize you may be struggling with
a fear of success, let's connect
by phone or skype.
meetme.so/MelissaGalt
Never forget, you were hired by your
clients because you know MORE than
they do. You absolutely have the right
education, experience, expertise, and
personality to make a BIG ASS difference.
Replace your need to be liked with
your commitment to being honest.
HUGS HONESTLY,
Melissa
P.S. I'm here to support you in this,
to lead by example, and to show you
how powerful you can be. meetme.so/MelissaGalt
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