I was talking with a friend about the frustration I felt that while I host four to five parties a year for my friends, they rarely seem to ask me out in between times. Surprisingly, she pointed out that I often come across as too busy to get together so no one will ask. I was caught off guard by this.
While, it's true, I do have a busy life, I am never too busy for friends. In fact, I'll prioritize time with friends above work because I learned early on that life is perishable, fragile and unpredictable and, for me, relationships are truly the food of life. Evidently it didn't look like I had time to get together with my friends.
I took proactive steps to let my friends know that not only did I have room for them, but welcomed them on spur of the moment notice to give me a call so we could get together. I made sure they knew I had time and space to devote not just to the parties but to one-on-one time.
