Are you a fault finder? Do you spend more of your time looking for the flaw in something than enjoying the beauty of what is right about it? What you seek, you will find.
I had a client years ago who had a knack for finding the one thing that was wrong in a sea of right. We completed her master bedroom, an incredibly elegant room in luxurious silks and velvets in seafoam greens and misty blues. She loved it, except for a single button on the king-size comforter that was not exactly in the right place (1/8" off.) Honestly, I couldn't see it but had it corrected nonetheless. While this skill set is invaluable for an inspector in the work
place, imagine what it does to relationships.
In fact, I remember this same client shared with me that her husband, early on in their relationship, had given her a gift and instead of expressing gratitude, she promptly told him, in no uncertain terms, that it wasn't what she wanted and what he should have bought her instead. Again, she focused on what didn't work instead of what did. While they remained married, the strain of her fault finding clearly showed. He never bought her anything again without her telling
him exactly what to buy (kind of takes the fun out of giving a gift!)
Look for what is working; lead with what is going right. What you focus on fills your life. This client's life was filled with "what is wrong" and a constant barrage of effort on her part to fix it all, or else she couldn't live with it.
